Can you mix work and relationships? Can you let it go? As a business coach® and couples therapist, I would rather ask that? Because it is next inevitable not to mix the professional with the love. Today, we are whole people who have to function both privately and professionally. At the same time, both areas of life are important components of the lives of both sexes. And things are merging more and more. In any case, the career is an important part of our lives and crucial for our well-being. Whether it’s about jobs, politics or self-employment. If stress and unhappiness arise in the private life and the relationship, it also affects working life and career. And the other way around.
It is none the less some of the matters I was asked about in connection with the video clip with Helle Thorning-Schmidt and her husband Stephen Kinnock, which went viral during the election in November 2017. See the article in BT.
A balancing act or a power struggle
Purely professionally, it can be difficult enough in itself to create both a positive and business-oriented relationship. I know this as an ErhvervsCoach®, where I coach boards, management boards, partnerships, departments and teams – on both the business and the relational side. Here, in my daily coaching and couple therapy, I experience many different constellations and conflicts. When people meet, there is both the possibility of sweet music and violent conflicts.
They do not become less when they are combined with professional interests, goals, visions and money. A good vision and strategy, whether in the relationship and on the home front or at work and in business, requires delicate communication and lots of dialogue. At the same time, differences must be maintained, negotiations stimulated and creativity preserved. Otherwise, development and synergy will die – both in the relationship and in the business.
- Privacy and love
- Relationship and career
- Business and pleasure
- Business coaching and couples therapy
Business, pleasure and couples therapy
Some seek business coaching because they initially have professional conflicts, which then quickly become psychological, personal and relational conflicts.
Others seek couples therapy because they are dating or married and, for example, have a business together, because they share a workplace or because they are a customer and supplier on the same project. Or because they become intimate at work or study, fall in love with each other, end up getting together or commit adultery etc. It can start with a dinner, late meetings, overnight stays and business trips, for example. And with time, more and more closeness and intimacy arise.
It often requires a professional clarification of values, a rock-solid reconciliation of the 5 languages of love, a razor-sharp reconciliation of expectations and a clear psychological contract if you want to mix business and pleasure. This is thus some of what I assist with, as a couples therapist at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk or as a business coach at ErhvervsCoach®. Either separately or in a combination. Other times, couples therapy deals with divorce and divorce therapy, where the divorce then includes both a commercial divorce and a marital divorce. As a couples therapist, I also help couples to rediscover the spark and romance through couple therapy if work has taken over. Here on the blog about relationships and love, you will find, among other things, thus a free tool, with two exercises and 36 questions that can make you fall in love again.
But in most cases I assist the couple in resolving the conflict, getting back together and creating a new relationship and future. But it is up to the couple whether it should be development or liquidation. And if the couple is not clear about their decision and the future, then this is often what couples therapy is about – in the first place.Sexuality, your imago and deeper relationships
In cases where business and pleasure are mixed, it is important that both sexuality and the deeper relationship are reconciled via insight and self-insight as well as recognition and responsibility. Here, Parterapi-parterapeut.dk offers, among other things, sexological conversation therapy and imagotherapy.
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