Why is the relationship so difficult?

Couples therapy is overall the most effective treatment

Effective relational psychotherapy with couple therapy
Anxiety and depression treatment with couples therapy
Access Bars reduce anxiety and depression by 80%
Sexological conversation therapy and couples therapy
Couples therapy, relationships and alcohol problems
Couples therapy for adult-child-of-alcoholics

Nothing can be hidden in the relationship

The relationship triggers all of our psychological challenges and therefore couples therapy is the best psychological treatment. All psychological problems are connected – arise, appear or are triggered in the relationship. There is nothing that can be hidden in love relationships and close relationships. If there is a vulnerability, an incompetence, a dysfunctional pattern, a problem or an old trauma, it will at some point be triggered in the relationship and in interaction with the partner. It often triggers anxiety and anger, which is inappropriate for the process and the relationship. Couples therapy therefore functions both as clarifying, treating and preventive relational psychotherapy.

The relationship is your teacher and it heals

As a couple, everything can look fine on the surface and when you look at it from the outside. Like two beautiful water lilies on the surface of the water. The problem is simply that the water lilies have stems that stick deep into the soil. And when the streams collide, the bottom gas comes up. That’s fine too. For trauma and problems as well as people, all need to come forward in the light of day – to be seen, heard and taken seriously. At the same time, love is the best medicine. Therefore, couples therapy and the couple relationship are also the biggest healing factor.

The relationship can both hinder and promote healing and development

But when we are pressured in everyday life and in our relationship, it is hard to make a profit. It goes i.a. in addition to the mentalizing ability, the listening ability, the listening ability, the empathy, the frontal lobes, the communication, and the problem-solving resources. All it takes is a little bit of arguing, anger, stress or anxiety to trigger a series of hormones. These hormones are actually trying to protect us, but in reality they are limiting us and our communication, problem solving, relationship skills and attachment skills. If the relationship is not taken seriously, it can be aggravating, disease-causing and health-promoting. Couples therapy is the eminent framework for calming down and re-establishing orderliness in the relationship – in the system and with the individual. On a practical level, Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen also helps with contact, communication and problem solving.

Why is the relationship so difficult and complex?

The psychological problems are connected in the relationship

More than 25 years of professional experience tells me as a couples therapist that most psychological problems are connected and that they typically also go hand in hand – for example:

Relationship problems, arguments and crisis
Intimacy, sexuality, sex life and adultery
Stress, anxiety, depression, illness and grief
Alcohol problems and adult-child of alcoholics

The chicken or the egg in couple therapy

The biggest reason for divorce is alcohol problems
Alcohol problems always lead to relationship problems
Alcohol has often been involved in adultery
Sexual problems are often about communication
70% get divorced because of sexual problems

No two relationships and systems are the same, but there are a number of factors that are connected and that trigger each other. The classic ones are communication, sexuality, infidelity, crisis, alcohol problems, stress, anxiety, depression and grief. For example, communication problems are the biggest cause of sexual problems, relationship problems and arguments. They can be derived from and cause problems with stress, anxiety, depression and grief as well as trust, openness, confidentiality and warmth. It goes beyond contact, which is the basis for communication, problem solving, closeness and intimacy. It affects sex life and can lead to sidestepping and infidelity. Infidelity is a crisis and a grieving process. Untreated crisis and grief can lead to stress, anxiety and depression, self-medication and abuse. Abuse and alcohol problems often lead to communication problems, relationship problems and sexual problems, as well as stress, anxiety, depression and grief. Alcohol problems can lead to what is called adult-child-of-alcoholics. Many adult children of alcoholics, addicts and heavy users (or other dysfunctional homes) have problems around close relationships, relationships, work and abstinence. Couples therapy is therefore important for clarification and prevention. All of the aforementioned factors can simultaneously weaken work ability, self-esteem and the immune system. They can simultaneously develop, trigger or worsen physical and mental illness. Therefore, couples therapy is also important as treatment and retention.

The two biggest problems in couples therapy are related

Alcohol problems in the relationship

The biggest threat to the relationship, the marriage, the family and the children are alcohol problems. Not all relationship problems lead to alcohol problems, but alcohol problems always lead to relationship problems. And the problem is bigger than we think. Almost 900,000 Danes drink too much alcohol and alcohol is the single biggest cause of divorce. Relational alcohol treatment is thus often an important part of couple therapy at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk.

Sexual problems in the relationship

Alcohol problems also often lead to sexual problems or infidelity. Approx. 70% of all couples in the OECD actually divorce because of sexual problems, as the primary or secondary reason. Sexological conversation therapy is thus often an important part of psychotherapy and couple therapy at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk.

Alcohol addiction in the relationship

When there are problems, relationship problems, pain and sadness, many resort to distance, escape, diversion, pain relief, self-medication, abuse and addiction. It can be anything from overtime, sports, masturbation, porn, games, sugar, food, alcohol, tobacco, medicine and drugs. There is thus a clear connection between alcohol problems and relationship problems, sexual problems, infidelity and grief. The best medicine is therefore couple therapy, but if real alcohol addiction has occurred, read more at Alkoholbehandleren.dk.

Adult-child of alcoholics in a relationship

The biggest cause of alcohol problems is therefore psychological pain and trauma. It can relate to the present, the past or a combination. It is often a pain, stress, anxiety, depression or sadness that is triggered in the present and which can typically also be linked back to a major or minor trauma in childhood or youth. For example, and often because you yourself have grown up in a dysfunctional home with relationship problems, alcohol problems, failure, abuse, illness, suicide, loss and grief – adult-child of alcoholics. Approx. 120,000 children grow up annually in families with alcohol abuse and approx. 630,000 are currently living or have grown up in families with alcohol abuse. Psychotherapy and couple therapy for adult-child-of-alcoholics is thus often an important part of psychotherapy and couple therapy at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk.

Psychotherapy and couples therapy in combination with Access Bars

In addition to psychotherapy and couple therapy, Parterapi-parterapeut.dk also offers Access Bars. Access Bars strengthen 32 key areas of life, relationships and sex life. Access Bars can be combined with both couples therapy and psychotherapy. At Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen, you can thus get two treatments at once – for one and the same price. This makes psychotherapy very effective and supportive. In relation to the couple’s relationship, Access Bars strengthen i.a. consciousness, communication, body, relationships, sexuality, health, joy and sorrow. Access Bars can also alleviate alcohol problems and cravings as well as trauma and pain in, among other things. adult children of alcoholics. It is also scientifically proven by research that Access Bars can reduce stress, anxiety and depression by over 80%. Access Bars are thus often an important part of psychotherapy and couple therapy at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk. If you are interested in becoming certified in Access Bars yourself, read more about the Access Bars Certification Course.

Acute, intensive and accelerated psychotherapy, couples therapy and imagotherapy

If it is urgent, you get an appointment for couples therapy within a week and if it is urgent, you get an appointment for couples therapy immediately. Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen is a specialist in psychological communication and problems in the relationship – about cohabitation, sex life, infidelity, crisis, illness, loss and grief as well as alcohol problems in the relationship and adult-child of alcoholics in a relationship. For those couples who are stabilized and who are interested in development, prevention and retention, Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen offers, among other things, also imagotherapy. Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen offers both access bars, psychotherapy and couple therapy in English and supported in Swedish, Norwegian, German and French.

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