- Get out of the thorny sleep of the relationship
- Get rid of the hamster wheel of love
- Turbocharge the marriage
- Grab the couples therapist’s oxygen mask
- Seek first aid and call for couples therapy
- Play the trump card of love
Life doesn’t end at thirty or the silver wedding
Do you know that? Falling in love fades, feelings fade, the hamster wheel takes over, the sex life dies and the romance fades away. The closeness disappears and the distance increases… separate living or miserable married.
It quickly leads to new strategies for closeness and coexistence or to soothe the emptiness and pain – work, projects, house, sport, food, sugar, tobacco, medicine, alcohol, adultery…
But it is not the kiss of death for the relationship. Grab the oxygen mask, read more below and get free tips and tools for the relationship… or call Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen for new oxygen for the relationship and marriage.
Get the romance and love back in the relationship
Living in the relationship you dreamed of? Or is it as above and how you would like to live? Is it something you will look back on in 20 years? Is that the example you want to pass on to your children? No, well!
Therefore – take the helm in your own hands, give impetus to the relationship, recreate the dynamics and development and get the spark, joy, freshness and excitement back in life, sex life and the relationship.
But before you seek psychotherapy or couples therapy, read this article first. Because here you will get a few free tips if you would like to try it yourself or have tools to supplement your couples therapy with. And why wait, start already today and turbocharge your relationship and love.
Two recipes for the relationship
There are two general recipes for getting the spark back in the relationship and marriage. The first recipe is based on doing as many as possible of the things you did when you were newly in love. The second recipe is about finding your own unique responses that make the relationship click.
Recipe number one for the relationship
The first recipe consists of four strategies for a better relationship:
Strategy one for the relationship
Start by doing something active together. Not just food and red wine at home, the same restaurant, TV and coffee or Netflix and sweets.
It’s about taking the initiative, experimenting and doing something active together. Something new, shared, creative, fresh, exuberant and energetic. You must stimulate your imagination and try something out together. Preferably something new and unknown or something known, but in new and unknown ways, times and places. Do something else or something in a different way. Create impulsivity and variety in your relationship. Experiment in your life and relationships.
Doing something new creates input, experiences, excitement and spark. Think about the beginning of your relationship. Everything was new and exciting. Therefore, do something new and rediscover yourself, your partner and the relationship. At least find a completely new or different restaurant, somewhere foreign. Replace Netflix with a trip to the cinema and see something you don’t usually see. Go go-karting or go archery together. Go cooking together and get new inspiration. Anything. At least replace the TV and coffee with a walk.
Strategy two for the relationship
Add elements of surprise, excitement and mystery to your life, relationship and marriage. Do something unexpected and surprise each other. Look at each other and listen to each other as if it were the first time and as if you didn’t know each other at all. Re-install your curiosity and ask lots of questions. Stupid, silly, quirky, funny, curious, titillating, provocative or cheeky questions.
It is good to know each other because it strengthens the love, but as you get to know each other better and better, curiosity, freshness, openness and interest die.
Go on a date again. Send love letters to each other or write a poem. Swap roles, play new roles or add new ways, methods, things and elements to your relationship, life and sex life. Take the initiative and surprise each other. Do something unexpected, crazy, naughty or fun.
Go to your partner’s workplace and take your partner out for lunch on the town or an after-work dinner. Arrange a get-away at a spa or hotel. Send some flirty and sassy texts in the middle of the day or on the way home. Keep a cinema ticket or personal message on a piece of paper in your partner’s pocket, bag, packed lunch or under the pillow. Go on a city walk, do a treasure hunt or organize an orienteering race.
News and surprises create excitement. It’s about recreating the oh-wow factor. Just like when you were newly in love and everything was new, different and interesting.
Strategy three for the relationship
In the end, it’s about awakening each other, the nervous systems and the emotions. To create what couples therapy calls arousal. In English, arousal means readiness, receptivity, wakefulness, awakening and arousal. Not just sexually, but neurologically and everything that comes with it in the form of body, hormones, states, emotions and behaviour.
In other words, to support yourself and each other in creating a state in the relationship where you are conscious, awake, open and active. It’s about getting out of the relationship’s Sleeping Beauty and turning off the relationship’s autopilot.
After all, our nervous systems influence each other, as in a common system. The brain seeks recognition, routine and efficiency. Important in everyday life, but at the same time the death of romance. So if you can wake up your partner, you also wake up yourself and vice versa. And this state of consciousness is crucial for life, closeness, freshness, dynamism, creation, learning, development and change in the relationship, as well as in relation to personal development.
Personal development thus also leads to the development of the relationship. In the same way, psychotherapy and couples therapy are related. Couples therapy is real psychotherapy with two adults in a relationship.
Strategy four for the relationship
Kickstart the dialogue in the relationship. It is often difficult, because both curiosity and creativity tend to evaporate together with falling in love. That’s why you now get the tool with The 36 questions that can make you fall in love again and stimulate contact and dialogue in the relationship: Look under the menu item Test.
Recipe number two for the relationship
Your unique love strategy
Recipe number two is couples therapy. With couple therapy, based on your current situation, you can get support to find your unique love strategy via a personal collaboration with Parterapi-parterapeut.dk. Via couples therapy, you also have the opportunity to work with your personal challenges, opportunities and potentials as well as hopes, dreams and goals. Read more about the effective concept in couple therapy on the Front page and under Couple therapist and Prices .
The relationship in the first class
Are you ready to go one step further? And do you want to upgrade the relationship to first class? Then a completely different and unique option is imaginotherapy . Imagotherapy is a fantastic toolbox, where you both get the opportunity for personal development and healing while getting closer to each other, strengthening your dialogue tools and creating an intimacy you never thought possible. How does it get better than that?
More options for couples therapy
If you are in doubt about where you stand, would like to take stock and secure the course in the relationship, you can start with a general. consultation in couple therapy or a couple check, where you also get a free toolbox for the couple relationship, consisting of a couple relationship test and eBook. Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen Valby also offers relational psychotherapy and special courses with a focus on alcohol problems, adult children of alcoholics, infidelity, loss, death, grief therapy, depression, anxiety and stressful conditions. In addition, Sexuality , image therapy for singles on dating, family therapy and grief therapy are offered .
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