- Social media, dating sites and swinger guides
- Sexist advertising and Internet pornography
- Polyamory, open sexual relationships, promiscuous sex or adultery
- Zapper culture, opportunities or threats
Article: Love, relationships and the internet – digital infidelity?
Article on specialized dating sites for organized adultery.
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If you have questions and concerns about digital infidelity on the Internet and in cyberspace, there is probably a reason for it. It can be a good occasion to stop, take stock and reflect on the relationship. Read more below, on the blog and website. There is also a free relationship test here. Or book a single consultation, like a party check, and get an overview of the matter. But stop the accident and immediately click on infidelity or call 61661900 for couples therapy if the damage has been done. Remember that it is never too late to prevent or save the relationship and the family after infidelity.
Can the internet contribute to the normalization and spread of adultery?
In recent years, several specialized dating sites have been set up, such as utro.dk and victoriamilan.dk, which openly declare that they support organized adultery. Here, like-minded people who want an affair and a partner outside the relationship or marriage can find other like-minded people.
Who uses these sites?
Berlingske Livsstil states on 20121129 that victoriamilan.dk had 200,000 Danish members at the time. The majority of these were married/in a permanent relationship with a duration of over five years, had children, were well educated, earned over DKK 500,000 annually and were aged between 35 and 50.
They describe themselves as honest, humorous, thoughtful, empathetic and sexy. However, victoriamilan.dk does not limit itself to a specific target group. Many will thus believe that these and similar sites help to spread adultery. As a couples therapist, I can at least state that it has become a more widespread and topical topic in couple therapy.
Opportunities or threats?
The Internet also contains undiscovered opportunities for social media, general dating sites, swinger guides and pornography. For those who want and can live in open sexual and polyamorous relationships or who would like to have free sex together in the swinger clubs, it offers many new opportunities overall.
For many others, it is offensive in itself to know that the girlfriend watches porn on the Internet. For others again, who are, for example, limited in their opportunities for expression or have organized themselves in a non-physical couple relationship, it might be a help or a supplement. At home as in couple therapy, more dialogues therefore arise about both the opportunities and threats of cyberspace.
The zapper culture?
With the availability and speed of the internet, the zapper culture is fertilized via cyberspace’s many opportunities and this can affect both the relationship and the sex life. If we are dissatisfied, bored, missing renewal and excitement, it is no longer necessary to confront ourselves and our partner with it – to talk about and deal with it. It has become easier to zap and shop around for new solutions or for small packages for a complete solution. Eat out or take home, one might be tempted to say!
Why do you do that? First of all, because it is possible. Secondly, because it is estimated that the risk of being discovered is low. Finally, because you have an unmet need, lack excitement or don’t want to confront the problems. The latter may possibly due to low self-esteem, shyness of conflict, general uncertainty and lack of communication and problem-solving skills.
It can also be because you are afraid of hurting and making your partner sad…or angry. A prerequisite for being able to talk about things is first and foremost security and trust. But hand on heart, the internet is almost unavoidable at the same time that cyberspace also offers many new opportunities and consequences. The couple can therefore quickly find themselves in situations that they have no experience with or the language for. These are all topics that can be worked on in couples therapy.
So for the relationship, it requires openness and dialogue. That, as well as constantly maintaining and developing the relationship, is the best insurance against insecurity, jealousy and infidelity. In most cases, it is best for the couple to try it themselves first before contacting a couples therapist, but if it gets too big or goes wrong, don’t wait too long to seek couples therapy.
What now?
If the damage has occurred, the same applies as usual. first aid:
Stop the accident – First aid – Get treatment.
Immediately contact Parterapi-parterapeut.dk for professional help.
Q&A about adultery
Articles with practical answers about adultery
In the article series with answers about adultery, you can read more about:
- What is adultery?
- Why does adultery occur?
- What are the signs of adultery?
- What are the consequences of adultery?
- How is grief handled by e.g. infidelity?
- How to forgive adultery?
- What do the statistics say about adultery?
- What do catchphrases and quotes say about adultery?
- First aid guide for infidelity.
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Kasper Larsen, mba
Examining psychotherapist with certification in couple therapy and specialty in adultery.
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