Attachment skills in the couple relationship
Is free play equally free for all children?Does the free play create a grouping of quiet children and those who crawl in the curtains?And what does this mean for relationship skills later in life and in the relationship? According to PhD fellow Ole Henrik Hansen, free play is not always healthy (part 1 of the […]
Separate living & escape hatches / Relationships / Couples therapy
Introduction and summary Running away from any problem only increases the distance from the solution.The easiest way to escape from a problem is to solve it. Overall, we can withdraw physically as well as not physically in and out of the relationship. The motif can be very different. It can span ordinary and daily skipping actions. It can […]
Self-love, love, couples therapy, imago therapy and psychotherapy
Self-love, couples therapy and psychotherapy It’s so easy to say!We have heard it from children’s feet, but it is so difficult in practice. Love yourself!You have to love yourself before you can love others!You can’t love your partner if you don’t love yourself! Why is it so hard to love yourself? Love yourself! No one can […]
Couples therapy for the adult child of alcoholics in a relationship
Questions about the adult child of alcoholics in a relationship What does it mean to be an adult child of alcoholics? When and how do you know that you or your partner is an adult child of alcoholics? How does it affect one’s psychology, social skills and dynamics, to have grown up in a more or less […]
Relationship problems, pain, couple therapy and development
Happiness and unhappiness in the relationship The love and relationship including our own psychology is an eternal source of healing and happiness as well as unhappiness, pain and trauma. Does your happiness depend on your partner? The relationship and marriage is an eternal source of joy and sorrow. When things go well and we get what […]
Mentalization in the couple relationship through couple therapy
A BETTER COUPLE RELATIONSHIP THROUGH MENTALIZATION Mentalization is about perceiving, thinking and feeling clearly in relation to oneself, the partner and what happens between the parties. Mentalizing strengthens attachment and the couple relationship, creates insight, understanding and trust and helps the parties deal with differences, contradictions, conflicts and separation. Mentalization as a social function for insight […]
Abandonment syndrome, attachment, couple relationships and couple therapy
Abandonment problems, couples therapy, psychotherapy and grief therapy Do you know that? What is abandonment? Abandonment comes from French, where ‘abandon’ can be translated as something like abandoned or neglected. In psychology, we understand it as greater or lesser early failures or violations in connection with the primary caregivers. Failure that can leave a mark […]
The 36 questions that can make you fall in love
First aid for the relationship > The spark > 2 tips for the relationship Free toolbox for the relationship in couples therapy Below you will find the 2 exercises and 36 questions to ask to fall in love. The 36 questions can be used both preventively and therapeutically in relation to your couples therapy at […]
Blueprint for love and relationships / Couples therapy
I have been to a lecture and mini workshop on the Thermostat of Love by Charlotte Fruergaard. A very skilled and experienced mediator who delivers the messages very directly and who makes the material come alive in a glow of freshness and love. Below is a summary based on my experiential worldview as a couples […]
10 surefire ways to ruin a relationship
Distressed couples and couples therapy As a couples therapist at Parterapi-parterapeut.dk in Copenhagen, I see troubled couples who are in crisis every day. Most people know this well, but still wonder how it could get there and why they now need support in the form of couples therapy. But couples therapy doesn’t have to be […]