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Article: Relationships, feelings and digital infidelity in cyberspace

About friendly and amorous contact and relationships on the internet – social media, chat, emails and SMS. This is an article in a smaller series of articles about the internet, infidelity and technology addiction, etc

Questions and answers about adultery

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Are you seeking couples therapy for infidelity?

If you have questions and concerns about digital infidelity and your feelings have gotten stuck, there is probably a reason for that. It can be a good occasion to stop, take stock and reflect on the relationship. Read more below, on the blog and website. There is also a free relationship test here. Or book a single consultation, like a party check, and get an overview of the matter. But stop the accident and immediately click on infidelity  or call  61661900  for couples therapy if the damage has been done. Remember that it is never too late to prevent or save the relationship and the family after infidelity.

Statistics about amorous contact in cyberspace

Are there any numbers in the area?

According to a British study, Facebook is to blame for 33% of all divorces.
Quote MX on 20130617.

It is estimated that Facebook plays a role in 20% of all divorce cases in the United States.
Base Line, NDTV, New York Daly News.

25% of users on Facebook have tried to get dumped on Facebook.
Base Line, NDTV, New York Daly News.

There are cases where people have been killed for “Escape”.
Source: Business Insider, Forbs.

300 million are uploaded every day. photos on Facebook.
Source: Inquirer, The Telegraph.

Facebook jealousy especially threatens new relationships that have a shorter duration than three years.
Source: Journal of Cyberpsychology, Behavior and Social Networking.

Right now, there are 15,000 active profiles on the two biggest dating sites
who are openly looking for affairs outside of a permanent relationship.
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Consequences of amorous contact in cyberspace

What are the consequences?

Overall, internet jealousy, infidelity and addiction problems can arise via social media in cyberspace (more on this later on the blog). What is infidelity and what is not depends entirely on the individual and the boundaries of the individual. However, infidelity can occur either in the form of emotional infidelity or physical infidelity. Many of the clients who seek me out as a couples therapist with a view to couple therapy testify to problems such as:

Distribution, limitations and solutions

What are my experiences as a couples therapist?

Internet incl. social media such as Facebook is now available on most mobile phones, etc., which can be carried discreetly and undisturbed in private as well as shared spaces. It is thus impossible to know whether and with whom the partner corresponds when the partner is alone.

But the partner can in principle also sit on the same sofa and chat with an ex-boyfriend or a potential date. It can help to create extra uncertainty, insecurity, fear and jealousy…as well as control. Just as technology addiction can arise, the need for insight and control can also develop into an addiction in itself – an addiction to controlling the partner and the partner’s behavior. Thus a negative self-reinforcing spiral that requires investigation by a couples therapist with experience in addiction and abuse issues.

Some partners get so frustrated that they ask to read their partner’s messages, emails and text messages. Others do it without permission. However, gaining access to your boyfriend’s emails and text messages must be carefully considered. According to §263 of the Penal Code (correspondence secrecy and breach of peace and honour) it is illegal and is punishable by a fine or imprisonment for up to six months.

However, the parties may become so frustrated that they feel compelled to share electronic correspondence. Some therefore hand out passwords to each other. Few, still, acquire apps that can geographically trace each other’s physical movement and whereabouts. These are all issues that are discussed more and more often in couple therapy.

It also happens that, for various reasons, text messages are deleted so that the partner cannot read them, but that the partner subsequently, by agreement or secretly, hands over the smartphone to a consultant who can now restore the deleted text messages with modern technology. It is of course over the line for most people and can be a violation of the criminal law – and the companies that offer the service will rarely take responsibility for verifying the owner of the phone versus the person who submits it. However, it is rarely something that turns into legal disputes, but the circumstances create extra work for the couple in the subsequent couples therapy.

What can you do?

The best couple therapy advice is to immediately confront and talk about it. So openness and communication. If you want to take more concrete action, you can, for example, discuss values, limits and policies for using the internet. Some agree specifically where, when, how much, how and for what you use the internet and social media. If the heavy consumption/abuse is due to frustrated needs in the relationship, it is of course also important to talk about the future you want together.

If you don’t talk about it, the risk is that the partner doesn’t know you and your boundaries, that it escalates and develops into a noisy taboo. But it can be difficult and experienced as a risk to talk about it. In that case, or if you have tried and it has gone wrong, it is best to contact a couples therapist as soon as possible.

What now?

If the damage has occurred, the same applies as usual. first aid:
Stop the accident – ​​First aid – Get treatment.
Call Parterapi-parterapeut.dk for professional help.

Q&A about adultery

Articles with practical answers about adultery

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At Parterapi-parterapeut.dk you meet Kasper Larsen, mba. He is from 1966 and EAP/EAGT examined psychotherapist and certified couples therapist and sexologist. Kasper has over 30 years of experience and ongoing continuing education at Master’s level under the approval of the American Psychological Association.

He specializes in infidelity and, as something special, he has over 15 years of specialist experience in online therapy by telephone and thus runs a global online business in coaching and psychotherapy. He is fluent in Danish and English as well as German, French, Norwegian and Swedish.

Kasper Larsen has been self-employed since 2002. Before that, he was a top management consultant in the largest consulting houses. As a therapist, he has, among other things, work in social psychiatry and with professional alcohol treatment. For private individuals, Parterapi-parterapeut.dk offers, among other things, psychotherapy, imagotherapy, family therapy, couples therapy, sexology, access bars body processes and alcohol treatment. Supervision, coaching and courses are also offered for businesses.

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Quotes About Infidelity

Kasper Larsen, mba
Examining psychotherapist with certification in couple therapy and specialty in adultery.
Certified coach specializing in mindset, paradigm shift, quantum leaps and turnarounds.

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